Disappointed in Oprah

I have been an Oprah Winfrey fan since her early days with Kennedy and Company. I have cried with her, laughed with her, and enjoyed her rise to popularity.

There is no way to take away what Oprah has given to us through her caring and sharing. She has taken her audience to places never gone before. Oprah gave us new memories, new ideas, and helped bridge the gap to understanding of so many issues. She helped heal so many and shared stories that have made us all better people.

But since Oprah made the announcement that she will call it quits after 25 years in our living room, I have to say it is with sadness that I say I will miss her.

But, I think this is probably a good decision; it is one I respect her all the more for making.

That said, I admit I was disappointed yesterday after watching Oprah's Holiday 2009 show that showcased some unlikely pairings in Holiday musical duets.

It wasn't the music that disappointed me. It was Oprah's behavior.

Oprah is obviously very comfortable these days; perhaps too much so. She used to behave as a journalist in the way she interviewed, probed, and interacted with her guests. I had great respect for her ability to deal with even issues very personal to her with an edge of integrity, decorum, and respect.

The edge gave way yesterday. What I saw was a woman who behaved as a screaming fan of her BFFs, Mary J. Blige, Alicia Keys, and Jennifer Hudson. She engaged her girlfriends at the expense of those with whom they shared the stage.

Jennifer Nettles and Kristian Bush of Sugarland had just shared a song with Hudson, yet Oprah gushed over Hudson, her newborn son, and seemingly ignored her other guests.

The camera time on Tim McGraw and Alicia Keys was clearly in Keys' favor.

But worse yet was Oprah's behavior at the conclusion of her self-proclaimed favorite song, Andrea Bocelli and Mary J. Blige's rendition of What Child Is This.

I don't know whether Oprah does this often, but it made it to the camera yesterday. As her eyes filled with tears, she screamed like a 60's Beatles fan, proclaiming this was now her favorite song, even before the song was over. Her voice was heard over that of the performers. She was clearly moved, and that's OK, but would the up-and-coming Oprah ever have made such a faux-pas? I doubt it.

Then at the end of the number, Oprah ran across the stage, right in front of Bocelli to grab a hug from her girlfriend. Bocelli may be blind, but he was obviously aware that Oprah walked, and for a time, stood in front of him, fawning over Blige. Right before a commercial break, he could be seen shyly moseying out from behind her, making his way next to her. At that point, she put her arms around both.

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The Lure of Black Friday

I have never been a fan of shopping, traffic, or waiting in lines. My opinion of this fairly newfound tradition known as Black Friday is pretty evident. Even the term is a turn off for me. It sounds so negative. If I have to go shopping, I am generally armed with a perfectly-detailed list, or at the very least, a strict idea of just what I want.

I admit that I'm not a monk, or whatever the shopping equivalent is for browsing and buying abstinence. There are times that even I am tempted by promises of big savings and huge sales. So when I learned that Staples was offering deals, I was intrigued.

It just so happened that they had what I really wanted—a 21" flat screen monitor for $89. Holy cow that is almost the size of my television set. I really wanted it. Then, I learned that they also had an illuminated keyboard. And it was on sale for only $29.00. How cool was that? I'd never heard of such decadence.

The only catch was that the sale was between 6 a.m. to 10 a.m. on the dreaded Black Friday.

What a hideous way to spend the morning after a rousing good time with family members. But, I couldn't help myself. I wanted this monitor. I had been using an adequate but very outdated 17" monitor since 1999. The thing was huge and heavy. It was repaired once already and who knows how long it would last, even thought it was, at the present time, working flawlessly.

But for how long?

Then I thought about the keyboard. My keyboard was not very old, but I've never liked it. It was a wireless keyboard and mouse combination. It too was adequate, but there were times that it skipped a letter or space now and then. That could be pretty embarrassing if in a news story, one of those got by me. Truthfully, I wanted a wired keyboard. They were much more reliable for professional writing. On my old keyboard, the letters had worn off the keys—I have done that to countless keyboards. So when I heard about an illuminated keyboard, I was so excited. So, I made plans to jump in and do my shopping thing.

My husband and I got up at 6 a.m., had only one cup of coffee before unplugging the pot, got dressed, let the dog out quickly, fed the cats, and were on our way. He noticed that there was no Staples ad in the paper. We didn't expect anyone to be there at 7 a.m. We learned about the sale when we had gone in the store a week earlier to buy an ink cartridge for my printer. While I was admiring the flat screen monitors, the store salesman asked me if I wanted one. He then told me they would be on sale on Black Friday.

The parking lot was completely full. Flyer or not, they knew. But, it wasn't unbearable. Store clerks were very helpful. We found what we wanted and were on our way home within 45 minutes. We plugged the coffee pot back in and by the time it was hot, John already had my monitor and keyboard up and running.

Black Friday, and I really hate that name, was good to me. As often as I stare at a monitor a computer screen and tickle the keys on the keyboard, this was a worthwhile, if not a healthy purchase. This new screen is huge. It is easy to arrange all the 'stuff' I have on my desktop. While I don't need to see the keys when I type, there is a benefit to seeing the function keys of which I'm unfamiliar. I thought it was rather silly to have a lighted keyboard, but as I sat here, what began as a bright, sunny day slowly slipped into night without my even noticing. Admittedly that happens often. So, I see the benefit of a lighted keyboard. And, I like it.

Weighing in on Adam Lambert

I just can't help myself. I have to weigh in on the Adam Lambert performance at the American Music Awards Sunday night.

I was an Adam Lambert fan during the entire season of American Idol—despite runner-up adoration for Kris Allen, who is from my home state. I thought Lambert knocked the socks off Idol viewers everywhere. I was not impressed by his over-the-top performance at the AMA show either, but,...

Complaints, c'mon

That said, there is no way I find it difficult to believe that 1,500 people actually complained to the network about it. It is hard to believe so many people actually picked up the phone or sent an email to ABC to lodge a complaint. What is wrong with turning the channel?

Lambert's performance was no worse than the other freaks who performed, dangling jewelry over their crotch, grabbing at themselves or others, or dressing in ridiculous costumes meant to make them look naked or to accentuate erogenous parts.

Whatever happened to freedom of expression? Isn't music supposed to be art? Or are these the same kind of people who would cover up a naked statue or dress a nude painting? What's worse than the complaints are that anyone would listen.

I don't particularly like the kind of music I saw Sunday, but these performers are free to express themselves. It is the world we live in. If you dislike it, do as I will do, don't buy the music.

What is with Good Morning America?

What appalls me the most is the fact that Good Morning America canceled an appearance by Lambert scheduled for Wednesday morning. What is up with that?

Adam Lambert has amazing vocal ability. He could probably do a great rendition of Amazing Grace just as easily as any other music. Was GMA afraid his intention was to come on TV to rub legs with Chris Cuomo or go for an open-mouthed kiss with Sam Champion? C'mon on! The GMA venue is totally different than the AMA.

I think GMA made a big mistake canceling Lambert. I've noticed a downward slide for GMA as a news show—one that is more interested in entertainment than news. And, can we talk about how they have taken to pushing the Christian envelope? To me, that is just as inappropriate as Lambert sticking his tongue down some guy's throat.

My opinion

For what it is worth, Adam Lambert did himself a disservice. He is way too good—too talented to allow a performance to isolate any fans. His flamboyant behavior and appearance is probably a fleeting statement, an experiment to locate the boundaries. At least that is my hope. And, let's give the guy a break. He's young and he just found fame. He should be allowed a little leeway—a little time to experiment with what works for him. It is my hope that he will tone down the act in order to settle into a long-term career as he makes music that will serve him well.

We all know he is gay—so what. There is no more need to flaunt it. The shock value is done. I suspect Adam Lambert's shock value performances will be toned-down as well. Once he gets this out of his system, he can make his living off his extreme talent, performing music that has a wide range of interest. Personally, I can't wait.

Fulfilling the dream of a lifetime

As a journalist, I could probably have acquired a free copy of the memoir, "Moon River and Me," written by famous crooner, Andy Williams, with the promise to write a book review. I didn't do that.

But this was no news story. This was intensely personal as I set out to meet the man I've admired for nearly a lifetime. This was to be the fulfillment of a dream.

Since Andy Williams built his own theater in Branson, MO, many people from all over the country have flocked there to hear that smooth, rich voice that caused President Ronald Reagan to call Andy Williams a national treasure. I didn't do that either.

What I did do though, was so much better, at least in my opinion. I got to meet Andy Williams at a scheduled book-signing when I bought a copy of his memoir at a Sam's Club in Springfield, MO. I got to meet him and tell him that I was probably his biggest fan. His response was predictable.

"Oh you are?" he said.

How many thousands of times has he heard that?

As my husband and I traveled nearly three hours to Springfield, I wondered just what I would say to this man whose face was as familiar to me as my own late father. Perhaps my almost lifelong attraction to Andy Williams had something to do with his resemblance to my dad. They had the same, smiling blue eyes, similar build, coloring, demeanor and sense of humor.

Sadly, I realized that there was nothing I could say to him that would convey the depth of affection I have felt for him or what his music has meant to me for more than forty years. How could I express that his music has brought me comfort or joy during sad or painful parts of my life? What words are there to explain that his music was always the exclamation point that sanctioned important events I've known?

I recall bringing my first child home from the hospital. No moment can be better than all the promise that comes with welcoming a new baby into the family. But as I rocked my new daughter to sleep thirty years ago, Andy and I sang her songs, like "Dear Heart," "Sweet Memories," and "Born Free." It sweetened an already beautiful moment.

Then, when my son was born two years later, the singing continued. Listening to the words that I used to think were limited to the love between a man and a woman--songs about hope, promise, and everlasting love--also applied to the love between a mother and child.

If I was feeling sad, Andy's music comforted me.

He always sang to our family at Christmas.

I am grateful that at a young age I learned to appreciate good music, the kind he sang. I believe it is classic and timeless.

I'm often told I can't sing, but that has never stopped me. I always sing with Andy, whose music has always moved me to tears.

Whether just cleaning house, washing dishes, cooking, or any other activity, it all went better with Andy.

I admit—I have been enamored with Andy Williams since I was 14 years old. I treasured the albums I collected. My albums are not "collectibles," but they are certainly vintage. They have a kind of patina from being so well-worn. I have about a dozen of them. Their obsolescence never bothered me, for I also have Andy Williams' music on 8-tracks, cassettes, CD's and even a couple MP3's.

The first gift I ever received from a boy, way back during those innocent, puppy love days, was Andy Williams' Warm and Willing album. What a beautiful gift. This album was the first one I ever had in stereo. It was actually a duplicate, though mine was monaural—pre-stereo vinyl.

I've seen only four concerts in my life—two of them were Andy's concerts at Arie Crown Theater in Chicago. The first time I went with friends. It was spectacular as he sang with a full orchestra. The second time, my husband, John took me to see Andy. French pianist Michel Legrand shared the stage with him. Both were spectacular events.

I always said taking me to see Andy Williams was the reason I married my husband.

John and I now live in the Ozarks. So does Andy. There was a standing joke at our house when we still lived in Beecher. John told me that when we moved here we would be Andy's neighbors.

"We will probably run into him at the grocery store," he often quipped.

As we wheeled our grocery cart toward the fresh produce, I looked back to where Andy sat, signing autographs, a stack of books beside him and his Christmas CD playing in the background. He looked totally comfortable, but then, he too has made the Ozarks his home. He sat among people who really loved him—his neighbors. I couldn't help but smile, knowing that Andy Williams really was my neighbor and we met him in the grocery store.

Free software

I remember when the internet was a new and exciting place--filled with new ideas and new software to try. Developers wanted feedback on their products, so they offered them for free in an effort to get customers to try it.

That hasn't been the case for some time now, except that every now and then, there is a free product that is worth having. Such is the case with Glary Utilities. I know because I just used it on my tired Windows XP system.

Glary Utilities cleaned my cluttered registry, which is something I refuse to touch. It emptied my bloated cache, freeing my sluggish system from way too much junk. And, it streamlined my startup. It will even get rid of those remnants of old programs that add to a clogged computer.

I was getting to the point where I had to wait to access "my computer." Closing a file would take forever. The only other way to help was to reboot the system.

I am happy to say that things are moving right along now, thanks to Glary Utilities. This really is a great program and it will cost nothing to give it a try. You can buy the pro version for $39.95 or download a free version. I've used the free version and I've been happy with it. Download it today at: http://www.glaryutilities.com/

Give it a try. You won't be sorry.

Time to bring in plants

We still haven't had a frost--hurray--but it had to be pretty close last night. I brought in my plants yesterday anyway. I was cold outside, so I'm sure they were too. It stayed in the 40º's, but it was too close to comfort for me.

I always love bringing them in. If they were people they would have a glow about them. They seem happy to come inside where it is warmer, and there is no wind. They are obviously tired of the summer breezes which have begun to take on a blustery feel. My plants seem very relieved to be indoors. I've placed them all in the back porch, which isn't heated, but the south-facing windows and proximity to the rest of the house will keep it warm enough. But I can't help but think, wait til the plants meet the cats.

I know I have written about the girls before--all six of them--although Mama lives outside. And Emily, our senior member, rarely goes in that room nor does she bother with the plants. But then there are the terrible-two kittens--four of them. They love playing with the babies of my spider plant. They flick them with their paws and consider it great fun.

They have taken to sitting atop my grape ivy and in between the arms of my Christmas cactus. I have sprinkled cinnamon on all of the plants. I read somewhere that cats don't like the smell of cinnamon. I hope that works. So far, so good, but it will likely be a long winter. That means a good workout for the spray bottle. Just one look at the spray bottle and the girls freak out.

Anyway, I love the look of the porch, all decorated with too many plants. I go out there to read, draw, write on my laptop, or talk on the phone. It is always a joy to be around all of them again. It is like trying to trick myself into forgetting what time of year it really is.

The room had been so empty. Every time I step down into that room, I just want to take a deep breath. I'm glad to have my plants back. I just hope nothing slithery decided to take a ride into the house with them.

Ozarks frost

A friend mentioned to me yesterday that we were supposed to have our first frost, here in the Ozarks. I checked my favorite weather map at Intellicast.com to learn that he was probably incorrect. Nevertheless I'm grateful for his warning because I did begin the arduous process of bringing my favorite plants indoors. I didn't bring them all in, however.

There are lots of chores to do before it gets really cold and this is a good time to do them. It has been cold enough that those pesky chiggers aren't so prevalent--and neither are the many, many spiders we had late summer--so working in the yard might just be fun.

I live in a small ranch house with north-facing windows. It is pretty dark, which I am not happy about. It is built to stay cool in the heat of the summer, but I really miss the bright sunshine in the room. And there are no windows in the kitchen (which I will always hate) but it is an open concept with the kitchen sink overlooking the dining room and living room. The saving grace is the large south-facing window just beyond the kitchen where I can keep some plants. There is also a lovely sun porch, which is the ideal place for my plants. It isn't heated, but it benefits from the warmth of the rest of the house.

I also have five cats--four of which are two-year old litter-mate kittens, who like nothing more than to get into everything--so I'm a little apprehensive about this plant thing. The girls just love to knock things off tables and jump onto things, plus the unmentionable cat problem with dirt. I'm going to try to dust the plants with cinnamon. I read someplace that cats don't like cinnamon and that will keep them away. Yeah right!

So far, none of those things have ever worked for me. I recall the hot pepper to keep squirrels off the bird feeders. Hah! They ate it. I suspect my cats are at least as naughty as squirrels.

While we are not expected to have our first frost where I live--it has occurred in other places in the Ozarks already--until later in the month, I have some time to bring in the remainder. Perhaps if I sneak a few in at a time the girls' curiosity won't overwhelm their good sense of right and wrong (as if they had that anyway).

Today is predicted to be 70º and the sun is already shining brightly. I can't think of anything I would rather do than some re-potting, cleaning up and generally working with greenery.